So your man has walked out on you? Do you find yourself thinking only about how you can get your ex back? If this is the case, then you need to stop being so emotional about it, calm yourself down, become rational, and come up with a workable plan to get your man back.
The first thing you must do, and the hardest by far, is to realize that even though you want to get your man back, he may not feel the same way. Perhaps the relationship has become an endless cycle of makeup and breakup, and he has decided that he wants out. No matter how much you want and need him back, it doesn't matter because he has decided that the relationship needs to end for good.
The next thing you must do is to take a long hard look at the relationship as a whole, not just the bits and pieces that bring back happy memories. You are going to have to put away the rose colored glasses and analyze the entire relationship. Is it good for you? Is it good for HIM? If you need outside help to do this, then by all means do so. If you do not want, or can't afford professional help, then choose a close friend or relative that will give you honest opinions, not just what they think you want to hear.
While you are in this stage of your plan to get your ex back, you are going to have to become rational and logical, and stop acting on your emotions. Get yourself under control and stop doing things that make the situation worse like: texting him, calling him, and trying to force him to see you. Don't appear needy. Not only that, don't BE needy. This is probably the most crucial step in this process.
Instead of obsessing over the breakup, get yourself together. Get out and meet new people, take a class, work out, meditate, just do whatever it takes to get yourself in a calm state so you can formulate a logical plan to get your man back. You can only do this if you approach the whole situation in a calm state of clarity.
Once you have reached a state of clarity, you need to ask yourself, "do I really want my man back?" Way to often, people think they want to get their ex back, and only a few weeks later they realize that it was a huge mistake. Some people can't stand to be alone, can't take being single, and they reach out for the most relationship thinking this will save them from the pain of loneliness. Don't make this mistake. Remember that, if your ex is avoiding you, he might have thought about this and realized that you are not good for him. If this is the case, then it doesn't matter how much you want to get your man back, it isn't going to happen.
If, after doing all of the above, you come to the conclusion that getting your man back is the right move for you, then you should call him and talk to him in a calm and rational manner. Perhaps you can meet with him, but do so in a neutral, unfamiliar place with a lot of people around, which discourages both of you from becoming emotional.
Be aware that your man may not be ready to talk to you, and your move in this situation is to back off for the time being, tell him you understand, and give him time before you contact him again. In the meantime, continue living your life and keeping yourself busy.
If you follow the above plan and keep yourself in a calm and rational state, then you will have an excellent chance of getting your man back, if it is right for both of you.
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